The less time you spend looking at another's faults the more time you will have to see the good in them. Harboring bitterness towards another only causes you to hate and hate causes you to loose compassion and with the loss of compassion we loose our ability to serve the world around us with passion and love. When we look at others in a way that is lovingly it opens up our inner vision which enables us to become humble. Now with this new vision you can truly begin to love, and I'm not talking about just a feeling but a true desire to act compassionately with those you come into contact with.